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Couples Questionnaire for Assessment
What is the problem that led you to decide to come to therapy? How long have you and your partner been together? In what form (dating, living together, married)? What initially attracted you to your partner and how did you decide to be partners? What do you find most...
What Makes A Happy Marriage/Relationship?
"The research evidence does suggest that all marriages, happy or unhappy, seem to deal with the same "tasks" of being married, and that these tasks change with life span development." – John Gottman Gottman recognized that almost 70% of a couple's major disagreements...
8 Tips for a Better Significant Relationship
Conflict is your friend. There are differences in every relationship - what makes or breaks a relationship is how partners choose to resolve those conflicts. Ignoring them is not the solution. That would be like ignoring cancer in the hope that it will go away by...
12 Ways to Nurture Your Relationship
1. Fall in love all over again. Make a conscious decision to be in love. The more you act as if you are in love, the more you will feel like you are. 2. Remember the good times. Treat your partner like you did at the beginning of your relationship. Make a list of all...
The 7 Bad Habits of Unsuccessful Couples
1. A high ratio of negative to positive inputs. Where there is more than 1 negative to every 5 positive inputs, the relationship will be unstable. A couple is likely headed for breakup if the ratio sinks to 1 ½ negatives to each positive input. The idea is not to...
Multiple Realities
In our culture we cherish the capacity to define what we desire and then just go for it. Knowing what we want in our relationships and nailing it down to an exact number of steps, not exceeding 10, promises us entrance into the garden of earthly delights with hardly a...
Benefits Commonly Experienced in Therapy
Here are some benefits of counselling/therapy that people commonly come to experience through the process of Counselling Therapy: Finding power and choice when problems feel overwhelming Overcoming depression and re-experiencing hope, joy and peace Learning and...
Could I benefit from therapy?
My view of human development understands that each phase of life brings heightened developmental tasks, need sensitivities, crises, and opportunities for new learning. A supportive therapist can be crucial in helping you to make big life decisions, manage a source of...
Men and Couples Counselling
Many of the men I have worked with felt that when they agreed to go into counselling with their partner, they would be put on the spot, made into “the bad guy” and generally ganged up on. Often men have less experience with talking about their emotions and it can feel...
The Dialogue Model
About Suzanne
Suzanne More Kerr is a licensed Psychotherapist in Ottawa, Canada.