Therapy FAQ

Common Questions and Concerns

What are you like as a therapist?

My personal style is warm, accepting, supportive, and nonjudgmental.

In order to assist the process of a healing dialogue, the therapeutic method will reflect each person’s individual temperament and experiences and can vary depending on what an individual is struggling with and what he or she is comfortable with.

Different instances call for listening to a person’s story, or offering guidance, or providing insight.

While I can be a very active therapist—asking you questions as we talk and sharing my own ideas, thoughts, and reactions as I experience them in our session—often I will want to listen silently to you as you process your concerns aloud.

At appropriate times I will challenge you if I feel you are stuck or could benefit from a different perspective or point of view.

Once a collaboratively planned treatment is begun, you and myself will thereafter look at the value of each session in light of what has already transpired. I encourage you to tell me how each session has gone for you and you are always free to question or to clarify any ideas that I express in your therapy.

What is the first session like?

The first session is a Consultation Session. You can tell me about the problem you are having in your life, and I will ask you any number of questions so that I feel sure that I have a clear understanding of what it is you’re dealing with.

At the end of the session I’ll give you feedback and make recommendations on how we can begin to focus therapy to address the problem you have having.

You are then free to decide if you’d like to embark on a course of therapy or to take some time to consider whether therapy is right for you at this time.

Once you begin therapy, we will together formulate a map of treatment during the early stages of treatment.

How long will it take me to get an appointment with you?

Not long. I will ordinarily return your phone call within 1 business day. I make it a priority to see all new clients as soon as possible, usually within a week or two.

What will be required of me in therapy?

In order for you to have a successful therapy experience, you will need to be ready to:

  • Budget for the cost of your therapy
  • Clear space in your work and personal schedule to come to therapy appointments
  • Describe in detail the problem or problems you are having
  • Be willing to talk about your family relationships and childhood history
  • Consider and/or answer probative questions that I will pose to enable you to think about different dimensions of your problem
  • Be open to thinking about your problem in a new and different way
  • Be open to trying new approaches or strategies to deal with your problem
How long will I need to be in therapy?

That depends. Some issues are able to be resolved in a short-term therapy (3 to 6 months) while other issues simply take more time (6 months to a year or more).

Many clients choose to work with me for a period of time on a specific goal until it is resolved, then come back at a later time to work on a different goal or problem in their life.

I am happy to give you feedback about how long a therapy will likely be necessary for you to meet your goals or resolve your problem.
This having been said, I would like you to feel free to end therapy in your own time and in your own way. I prefer to provide you all the time you need in order to give you an environment that is therapeutic, safe, and facilitates development.

I believe the question of ending should remain in your hands to be raised when you choose. Ideally, this subject should be addressed only as it emerges in the your sessions to be reflected upon and examined when it arises. As the decision (the power) to enter therapy rests completely in your hands, so should the decision to exit.

How often should I come to therapy?

To get the most out of therapy you should plan on coming once a week or once every two weeks.

What therapy approaches do you use?

I have been educated in a variety of different therapeutic approaches for both Individual Counselling and Therapy and couple and family counselling therapy.

I have trained with leaders in the field here in Canada and in the U.S. I use a combination of current, cutting-edge approaches as well as the tried-and-true traditional therapies. I am well grounded in and use only professionally accepted approaches that research has shown to be effective.

My approaches include psychodynamic models, specifically object-relations, family-of-origin, attachment, and experiential therapies, as well as emotionally-focused and family systems therapies. I also employ the cognitive-behaviouraal and solution focused models.

Further, I offer Eye Movement Desensitizing Reprocessing (EMDR). .  

After the Consultation session, I will pick and choose from among these therapies to create a tailor-made therapy just for you.

Because every individual and every couple is unique, I find that this is the best way to maximize the effectiveness of therapy for my clients.

Most importantly, psychotherapists are ordinary human beings that have had some special training in how to be helpful. They have their own unique personality and characteristics. For this reason it is important that the “fit” between client and therapist is comfortable such that there is a mutuality of influence between client and therapist (that is, A influencing B, B influencing A, and so forth).

How will I know when the therapy is working?

You’ll notice. You will feel the effects of the changes you make. In addition, we’ll discuss the progress you are making as we go along so that at any given point you will know what you have accomplished and what work remains to be done to meet your goals. When the therapy is working you may begin to:

  • Feel happier and more confident
  • Experience more satisfying interactions in your relationships
  • Do things that you might not have thought yourself capable of
  • Stand up for yourself in a difficult relationship in a way that feels good to you
  • Feel more in control in your life
  • Experience surprising, positive responses from the people around you

Basic Goals of Counselling Therapy

 

Regardless of these differences in focus, all therapy has the same core elements and underlying goal. At the core, therapy is a form of empathizing and connecting (“Even though I am not experiencing what you are going through, I can feel and be with you in this experience. You are not alone.”). Carl Rogers (1980, A way of being) has stated that to be empathic with another human being requires entering the private perceptual world of the ‘other’; becoming sensitive, moment to moment, to the changing felt meanings which flow through this other person. At different moments in the process, therapy involves listening to the person’s story, or offering guidance, or providing insight. In all this, therapy is a joint activity in which both the client and therapist are actively involved.

Counselling Therapy is a process in which the client is respected and in which empathizing, listening, guiding and understanding lead to self-care, self-knowledge, initiative, change and growth. The purpose is to help you develop a richer, more rewarding life. Since therapy deals with perceptions, feelings, and emotions, the underlying goal is to help clients to come to know, resolve, and integrate their feelings in the whole of their lives.  Instead of being a barrier or a block, feelings and emotions can provide the vitality and vibrancy to our daily activities. Therapy can be one way we can learn to be sensitively open and respond appropriately to our life situations.

Areas of Specialty

 

What are your areas of speciality with individuals?
Counselling tailored to the individual’s needs.
  • Couple and Family Relationship Difficulties
  • Work and Career Issues
  • Separation and Divorce
  • Childhood and Family Issues
  • Fertility Counselling
  • Identity Issues
  • Common Developmental Issues
  • Individual Growth
  • Loss of Direction/Meaning
  • Grief and Bereavement
  • Pregnancy Loss
  • Abandonment Issues
  • Abortion & Post Abortion Healing
  • Depression and Hopelessness
  • Post Partum Depression
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Anxiety and Stress
  • Social Anxiety
  • Anger and Anger Management
  • Crisis Intervention/Management
  • Panic and Panic Attacks
  • Trauma Related Disturbances
  • Meditation and Relaxation Techniques
  • Mid –Life Transition
  • Men’s Issues
  • Control Issues
  • Obsessions and Obsessive Behaviour
  • Addictive Behaviour, Addictions and Substance Abuse
  • Boundaries, Establishing and Maintaining
  • Dependency and Co-Dependency
  • Self Worth and Assertiveness
  • Forgiveness, Self and Others
  • Trust / Mistrust Issues
  • Women’s Issues

 

What are your areas of speciality with couples?
Improving the Dynamic/Dance between Couples
  • Pre-Marital Counselling
  • Marital/Couples/Relationship Counselling
  • Mixed/Blended Families
  • Conflict and Communication
  • Disconnection and Distance
  • Infidelity and Adultery
  • Reconnection and Reconciliation
  • Love and Intimacy
  • Sexuality
  • Fertility Counselling
  • Separation and Divorce
What are your areas of speciality with families?
Bringing Harmony into the Home
  • Developing Meaningful Organizational Processes
  • Fostering Strong Communication Processes and Skills ·
  • Resolving Dilemmas and Disagreement
  • Nurturing Coping and Resilience
  • Managing Teen Issues
  • Healing Family Relationships
  • Focusing on Blended Family Issues
  • Examining Parental Issues and Approaches
  • Supporting Separation/Divorce Transition 

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